I decided to come off hiatus early because the allegations against Ben warrant a post.
First, I have no idea what really happened inside that Lake Tahoe hotel room in July 2008 where Ben stayed during a celebrity golf tournament. Â The woman has accused Ben of assault while he stayed at Harrah’s where Ms. McNulty was employed. The suit, Â for libel and slander, is filed against nine defendants, including Ben. The eight others are reportedly employees at Harrahâ€™s whom the woman accuses of defaming her following the assault.
Ben’s lawyer, David Cornwell, said Ben denied the charge. â€œBen has never sexually assaulted anyone,â€ Cornwell said in a statement.
Now, we might never know exactly what happened that night, Â But what we do know is this:
- Somewhere in America, a woman is raped every 2 minutes according to the U.S. Department of Justice.
- The United States has the highest rape numbers than any other country which publishes such statistics according to the National Women’s Study conducted by the National Center for Victims of Crime
- In the United States, more than 70 percent of all rapes go unreported.
That being said I’m going to urge all ladies to use some common sense.
You should not go home or to a hotel room with someone you just met. No matter how smart, how beautiful, how fantastic you are it takes time to get to know the attributes that go beyond initial attraction. Â In other words, if you do go, know up front that it is NOT tea and cookies you will be getting there. Â He knows this, so should you.
Just because the other person may be a celebrity of some sort, does not mean you know them. Â You don’t. The public persona isn’t always the private and real person. Â How do I know? I’m gonna use an Ocho Cinco quote here “Child Please.” I’m a public relations strategist. I can develop a public persona for any person, place, product or service. Â The attributes I highlight might not be ALL the characteristics, but those that appeal to the audience I am interested in reaching. Â Just because TO has a beautiful body, and he does, does not mean he’s a great husband or boyfriend. Â Keep it real ladies. Don’t get caught up in the celebrity. Â Not that all celebrities are secretly bad people, but just like any situation, take the time to get to know someone.
And my final point while standing on this soapbox: take note of those statistics again. Â Rape happens. By fabricating a story (and no, I do not know that anyone has specifically) you are making it more difficult for those who are raped every 2 minutes to make the case. Â Rape is serious, it’s power, it’s traumatic, it has life long effects. Don’t minimize this act because your feelings were hurt, because things didn’t go the way you think they should have or you just feel like it. Â If you have a case, report it. No man should ever rape you.
And again, don’t put yourself in situations that may lead to something you didn’t intend to happen.
Be smart. Be safe. Think before you act.
And Ben I really, really hope you are telling the truth.